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In their first couple therapy session, Bonnie and Greg present their problems in broad outlines. I want to get to examples. It is only by hearing what partners actually say to each other in specific situations that it’s possible to help them come up...

Collaborative Couple Therapy is based on the idea that partners in a troubled exchange are in need of a conversation. My job, in addition to helping initiate the needed conversation, is to keep it on track. If the conversation turns into a fight or shows...

At the end of each session, I ask, “What’s been disappointing about the session and what about it, if anything, has been useful?” If the session has been clearly useful, I omit the “if anything.” If the session has been clearly difficult, I emphasize...

I am writing a book—Solving the Moment: A Collaborative Couple Therapy Manual—which is based on my blog entries. Among the special methods I discuss in this book is the sentence-completion question. One way to join with partners in Collaborative Couple...

I’m writing a book—Solving the Moment: A Collaborative Couple Therapy Manual—which is based on my workshop and blog. Here is the introductory chapter, which grew out of my May 27, 2019 blog: A Synopsis of Collaborative Couple Therapy. In this introduction...